As parents, one of the most important responsibilities we have is to guide our children through their physical, emotional, and social development. Part of that development includes understanding and addressing their sexual needs and behaviors.

Though this can be an uncomfortable and sensitive subject, providing your child with appropriate guidance can help them make healthy and informed choices throughout their life.

Age-Appropriate Conversations

It’s important to have age-appropriate conversations with your child about sex and their bodies.

Starting with simple and basic information when they are young can help establish open communication between parents and children, which will be important as they navigate more complex topics later in life.

For young children, conversations about body parts, privacy, and appropriate touch are important.

Use appropriate terminology when talking about their bodies, and emphasize that their bodies are their own and that nobody has the right to touch them without their permission. Safety plans, like identifying trusted adults and knowing how to say ‘no,’ can also be helpful.

As children enter their tween and teenage years, conversations should become more detailed, addressing topics like puberty, romantic feelings, and sexual relationships, including the importance of contraception and safe sex.

Providing factual and non-judgmental information can prevent misunderstandings and help your child establish healthy attitudes and expectations regarding sex and intimacy.

Recognizing Normal Sexual Behaviors

As your child moves through different stages of development, they may exhibit a range of sexual behaviors.

Some of these behaviors may include:

Exploring their own bodies
Asking questions related to sex
Expressing curiousity about the bodies of others
Using sexual words or phrases
Playing ‘doctor’ games with peers or siblings

Many of these behaviors are normal and not indicative of abuse or inappropriate conduct. It’s important to avoid shaming your child for their curiosity and exploration. Instead, set clear boundaries and provide education and guidance to help them understand appropriate behavior and boundaries.

Responding to Sexual Behaviors that Raise Concerns

While many sexual behaviors are normal and healthy, others may be a cause for concern, especially if they escalate or involve coercion, or sexual contact with others who are unable to give consent (such as younger children or animals).

If you are concerned about your child’s sexual behavior, it’s important to approach the situation with sensitivity and care. Seek the help and guidance of professionals, such as counselors, pediatricians, or child psychologists, to address any issues and provide appropriate support and resources to your child.

Maintaining Open Communication

Throughout your child’s development, it’s important to maintain open lines of communication. Let them know that they can come to you with any questions or concerns, and that you are there to support and guide them.

Avoid judgment, and provide your child with facts and information that can help them make informed choices about their sexual health and behavior. By doing so, you can help your child develop healthy attitudes towards themselves and others, and make responsible decisions as they move into adulthood.