Confessions of a Mom Envious of Typical Kids

Being a parent is one of the most rewarding experiences in life. You get to witness the growth and development of your child, and share in their joys and accomplishments. However, parenting a child with special needs can be a unique challenge.

As a mother of a child with special needs, I have had to face many obstacles and overcome numerous hurdles.

Envy

One of the emotions that I have struggled with as a mother of a child with special needs is envy. When I see other parents with typical kids, I can’t help but wish that my child could have that same ease and simplicity in life.

I see other children running, playing, and laughing, while my child struggles to do the same things. It’s hard not to feel envious of these parents and their typical children.

Guilt

At the same time, I also feel guilty for these feelings of envy. I know that my child is unique and special in their own way, and that comparing them to others is not fair or productive.

I feel guilty for even thinking that my child should be like other children, when I know that they are amazing just the way they are.

Anxiety

Parenting a child with special needs can be a constant source of anxiety. I worry about my child’s health, about their progress, about their future. I worry about how they will be perceived by others, and about how they will fit into society.

These worries can be overwhelming at times, and can make it difficult to enjoy the present moment.

Frustration

Another emotion that I have experienced as a mother of a child with special needs is frustration. Frustration with the system, with the lack of resources, with the ignorance and insensitivity of others.

It is frustrating to see your child struggle, and to feel like you are not doing enough to help them.

Acceptance

Through all of these emotions, I have come to a place of acceptance. Acceptance of my child, of their special needs, and of my role as their parent. I have learned that it is important to focus on my child’s strengths, rather than their weaknesses.

I have learned to celebrate their accomplishments, no matter how small. And I have learned that it is okay to ask for help.

Conclusion

Parenting a child with special needs is not easy. It can be filled with emotions like envy, guilt, anxiety, and frustration. But it can also be filled with love, joy, and profound moments of connection.

As a mother of a child with special needs, I am constantly learning and growing. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.