Many parents dread the bedtime routine with their children, especially when it comes to toddlers and preschoolers who seem to have endless amounts of energy.

Some children find all sorts of excuses to avoid going to bed, and parents often find themselves navigating a minefield of protests, tantrums, and creative avoidance strategies.

The Challenge of Dealing with a Nighttime Little

Every child is unique, but some have a particular knack for resisting bedtime. These children are often referred to as “Nighttime Littles,” and they employ all sorts of tactics to prolong their waking hours and avoid the prospect of sleep.

Nighttime Littles may become suddenly hungry or thirsty, demand multiple stories, or insist that they need another toy.

They may also stall by repeatedly asking for one more kiss or hug or asking to use the bathroom even though they went only moments ago. Whatever their technique, their goal is to stay up as late as possible.

Why Do Some Children Struggle with Bedtime?

Understanding the reasons why some children struggle with bedtime can help parents better manage this nightly challenge. One common reason is that children may feel anxious about being alone in the dark.

Some children fear monsters or other imagined creatures in the room, while others simply don’t like the idea of being separated from their parents.

Another common reason is that children may want to continue playing or engaging with their parents.

Toddlers and preschoolers have limited control over their lives, and they may want to assert their independence by resisting bedtime and staying up later than they are supposed to.

Finally, some children may simply have a difficult time winding down and relaxing. They may be overstimulated by the activities of the day, or they may have trouble shutting off their thoughts and emotions.

Whatever the reason, it’s important for parents to recognize and address the underlying causes of bedtime resistance.

Strategies for Overcoming Nighttime Little Tactics

Parents who want to overcome the clever tactics of a Nighttime Little need to be firm, consistent, and patient. Here are some strategies that may help:.

Establish a Consistent Bedtime Routine

Children thrive on routine and predictability, so setting and sticking to a regular bedtime routine can help them feel more secure and comfortable at night.

A bedtime routine should include quiet activities such as reading books, taking a bath, or listening to calming music.

It’s important to start the routine early enough to provide ample time for all the activities and to allow your child to relax and wind down gradually rather than suddenly being told it’s time to go to bed.

Set Clear Limits and Rules

Children need clear boundaries and rules to feel secure and to understand what is expected of them. Set clear limits on what your child can and cannot do during the bedtime routine, and make sure your child understands those limits.

It’s important also to set rules about what happens when your child gets out of bed after being put to bed.

You could specify that they must stay in their room quietly, or if they need something, they can call out gently, and you’ll come and see them.

Offer Reassurance and Comfort

Many children feel anxious and fearful at bedtime. You can ease their fears by offering reassurance and comfort. Take time to talk to your child about any worries they may have and offer reassurance that you are there to keep them safe.

Some children find a favorite stuffed animal, blanket, or other comfort item helpful, so it may be worth experimenting with a few different items to see what your child responds to best.

Be Consistent with Consequences

If your child refuses to obey the bedtime rules, you need to be consistent with the consequences. If you allow your child to get away with avoidance tactics or breaking rules, you will only encourage further such behavior.

You can set expectations from the beginning, e.g., if the child’s night companions are toys, tell them at the beginning of the routine – before any whining – that they can have one toy.

Otherwise, they can’t bring toys into bed, as it might prevent them from falling asleep better.

Stay Calm and Patient

Dealing with a child who resists bedtime can be frustrating and stressful, but it’s important to stay calm and patient.

Reacting with anger, shouting, or punishing the child will only escalate the situation and make it more difficult for everyone involved.

Instead, stay calm and talk to your child in a soothing and positive tone. Use positive reinforcement and remind your child of the good behavior when they follow the routine and rules.

Conclusion

As a parent, dealing with a child who struggles with bedtime can be exhausting and taxing.

However, understanding the reasons why children resist bedtime and adopting effective strategies to overcome them can make a big difference for both you and your child.

By establishing a consistent bedtime routine, setting clear limits, offering reassurance and comfort, being consistent with consequences, and staying calm and patient, parents can help their Nighttime Little overcome her clever tactics and get a good night’s sleep.