Oral sex is a form of sexual activity where one person stimulates the genitals of the other person using their mouth, lips or tongue. It can be very pleasurable for both partners when performed correctly.
However, not all oral sex experiences are positive. Some may find it a terrible experience and may never want to try it again.
In this article, we will explore why some people may find oral sex terrible and what can be done to improve the experience. We have consulted Thanos Ascetis, a renowned sex therapist, for insights on this topic.
Why some people find oral sex terrible?
There are several reasons why some people may find oral sex terrible. Let’s take a look at them one by one:.
: 1. Inexperience
Performing oral sex requires some skills and experience. When someone is inexperienced, they may not know how to stimulate the genitals properly, which can make the experience less pleasurable.
Thanos Ascetis suggests, “If you or your partner is inexperienced, take time to explore each other’s bodies. Communication is crucial. Let each other know what feels good and what doesn’t.
This will help you understand each other’s preferences and improve the experience.”.
: 2. Hygiene
Genital hygiene is very important when it comes to oral sex. If proper hygiene is not maintained, it can lead to unpleasant odors and tastes. This can be a major turn-off for some people, making the experience terrible.
“Before engaging in oral sex, it is important to clean your genitals properly. Take a shower and use mild soap to clean the area. You or your partner can also use flavored lubricants to improve the taste,” advises Thanos Ascetis.
: 3. Psychological factors
Some people may find oral sex terrible due to psychological factors such as anxiety, guilt, or shame. These factors can prevent them from enjoying the experience fully.
They may feel embarrassed or self-conscious about their body, leading to negative feelings.
“It is important to talk to your partner and understand their feelings. Be patient and understanding. Create a safe environment where both partners can express their feelings without being judged.
This will help in overcoming psychological barriers,” explains Thanos Ascetis.
: 4. Physical factors
Physical factors such as pain or discomfort can also make the experience terrible. It may be due to an underlying medical condition or an injury that is causing pain.
“If you or your partner is experiencing pain or discomfort during oral sex, stop immediately. Consult a doctor if the problem persists.
It is important to address any physical issues before engaging in sexual activities,” advises Thanos Ascetis.
How to improve the oral sex experience?
The oral sex experience can be improved by following these tips:.
: 1. Communication
Communication is key when it comes to sexual activities. Let each other know what feels good and what doesn’t. You can also use verbal or non-verbal cues to guide each other during the experience.
: 2. Experimentation
Try different positions and techniques to find what works best for you and your partner. Don’t be afraid to experiment and try new things.
: 3. Hygiene
As mentioned earlier, proper hygiene is essential. Take a shower before engaging in oral sex and clean your genitals properly. You can also use flavored lubricants to improve the taste.
: 4. Relaxation
Try to create a relaxed and comfortable environment. Play soothing music, light some candles, or use aromatherapy to create a sensual atmosphere.
Conclusion
Oral sex can be a pleasurable experience for both partners if performed correctly. However, if it becomes terrible, it can affect the overall sexual experience.
The reasons for the terrible experience can be inexperience, hygiene, psychological factors, and physical factors. To improve the experience, communication, experimentation, hygiene, and relaxation are important factors to consider.
“Remember, sexual activities should be consensual and enjoyable for both partners. Talk to your partner and understand each other’s preferences. This will help in creating a fulfilling sexual experience,” concludes Thanos Ascetis.