Self-love is the foundation of a happy, healthy, and successful life. It is the ability to love and accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all. Many people struggle with self-love, which can lead to anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem.

Assessing your level of self-love can help you identify areas where you need to improve and develop skills to become more compassionate towards yourself. Take this self-love assessment to determine how compassionate you are towards yourself.

Section 1: Personal Behaviors

1. How often do you take time for yourself, such as reading a book, taking a bath, or going for a walk?.

a) Daily.

b) A few times a week.

c) Rarely.

d) Never.

2. How do you respond when someone compliments you?.

a) Thank you and accept the compliment.

b) Brush it off or make a self-deprecating joke.

c) Feel uncomfortable and unsure how to respond.

d) Dismiss the compliment as insincere or not deserved.

3. Do you have any negative self-talk or limiting beliefs that hold you back?.

a) No, I have a positive mindset and self-talk.

b) Some negative self-talk, but I am aware and working on changing it.

c) A lot of negative self-talk and limiting beliefs that I struggle to overcome.

4. Do you set boundaries with others to protect your time, energy, and well-being?.

a) Yes, I prioritize my needs and set limits with others.

b) Sometimes, I struggle to say no or put myself first.

c) No, I avoid confrontation and prioritize other’s needs over mine.

5. Are you comfortable being alone and spending time with yourself?.

a) Yes, I enjoy my own company and value alone time.

b) Sometimes, but I prefer to be around others.

c) No, I feel lonely or uncomfortable being alone.

Section 2: Emotional Well-being

1. How do you treat yourself when you make a mistake or fail?.

a) Show self-compassion and forgiveness.

b) Beat myself up and focus on my flaws and shortcomings.

c) Ignore the mistake or failure and push it aside.

2. Do you practice self-care and nurture your emotional needs?.

a) Yes, I prioritize self-care and emotional well-being.

b) Sometimes, but I struggle to make time for it.

c) No, I don’t see the importance of self-care or don’t make time for it.

3. Are you able to express your emotions, both positive and negative?.

a) Yes, I am comfortable expressing my emotions and feelings.

b) Sometimes, but I struggle with vulnerability and sharing my emotions.

c) No, I bottle up my emotions and have difficulty expressing how I feel.

4. Are you able to receive and give love, kindness, and compassion?.

a) Yes, I am open to giving and receiving love, kindness, and compassion.

b) Sometimes, but I struggle with vulnerability and trusting others.

c) No, I have difficulty trusting and opening up to others, and I avoid emotional intimacy.

5. Do you give yourself permission to feel and experience pleasure?.

a) Yes, I prioritize pleasure and enjoyment in my life.

b) Sometimes, but I struggle with feeling guilty or selfish.

c) No, I avoid pleasure or deny myself of it, feeling undeserving or unworthy.

Section 3: Relationships and Connections

1. Do you surround yourself with people who support and uplift you?.

a) Yes, I have a supportive and positive circle of friends and family.

b) Sometimes, but I have toxic or negative relationships that bring me down.

c) No, I feel alone and unsupported, and have difficulty making meaningful connections.

2. Do you communicate your needs and desires in your relationships?.

a) Yes, I am open and honest about my needs and desires in relationships.

b) Sometimes, but I struggle with setting boundaries and expressing myself.

c) No, I avoid conflict or prioritize the needs of others over my own.

3. Can you forgive yourself and others for past hurts and mistakes?.

a) Yes, I practice forgiveness and let go of grudges.

b) Sometimes, but I struggle with letting go of resentment.

c) No, I hold onto grudges and find it difficult to forgive myself and others.

4. Do you have a healthy balance of give and take in your relationships?.

a) Yes, I give and receive in my relationships equally.

b) Sometimes, but I struggle to ask for help or accept support.

c) No, I give more than I receive or take more than I give in my relationships.

5. Are you able to enjoy your own company and be independent in your relationships?.

a) Yes, I value independence and have a healthy balance of alone time and socializing.

b) Sometimes, but I struggle with codependency and relying too much on others.

c) No, I feel incomplete or lost without the validation and presence of others.

Scoring System

For each question, give yourself the following points:.

a) 2 points.

b) 1 point.

c) 0 points.

Add up your total score and compare it to the following results:.

26-30 points: You are highly compassionate towards yourself and have a strong foundation of self-love and self-care. Keep up the great work!
20-25 points: You are somewhat compassionate towards yourself but have room for improvement. Focus on the areas where you scored lower and develop strategies to improve them.
0-19 points: You are struggling with self-love and self-compassion. It’s important to recognize that change is possible and seek support to improve your well-being.

Conclusion

Self-love is a journey that requires practice, patience, and perseverance. Assessing your level of self-compassion can help you identify areas where you need to improve and develop skills to become more compassionate towards yourself.

Remember, self-love is not a selfish or narcissistic act, but a necessary one for achieving happiness, success, and fulfillment. Treat yourself with the same kindness, care, and compassion you would offer to a loved one, and watch as your life transforms for the better.